I chose to be open lately about my current struggles, and I have come to a final conclusion, I just have to ride the wave until I get back to shore, and if I am drowning, there are other life rafts to grab onto. These are things I learned through a lot of therapy, it's not an easy task but it's possible to pull yourself through after a while. Sometimes the waves come crashing down and you need a helping hand, but for the most part, it's definitely possible.
If you're sad, be sad, if you're angry, be a little angry (in a healthy way, don't take your feelings out on others). Sometimes, we are just sad for no reason, it kind of always happens to me. But I learned that if I'm sad, embrace it, don't try and beat it. It's OK to be a work in progress, it's also OK to be a mess that cleans themselves up. Don't shed your emotions on others through vague explanations, or constant posts on social media about your situation. Just ride it out, if you feel like you can't, seek better suited help for you. We all need to learn that our illnesses don't define us, and our emotions are just kind of there. It's OK to have bad days, or weeks, or even months if you feel like you have a good grasp on your emotions, some people enjoy riding the wave of constant emotion, you don't need to be one of them.
Riding the wave just means you are self-aware and know when to seek a helping hand. Being self-aware is a gift these days in the constant droning of bad news and tragedies unfolding each day. We are in a depressive state as a human race, everyone has at least one thing affecting their life, don't forget when riding the wave, it's your wave. No you shouldn't constantly give updates on your situation if there is no difference. In other words, don't flood your social media or friends with the intent of encouragement if you aren't willing to change yourself.
To ride your own wave, embrace your feelings, there are plenty of options to match, or conquer your feelings until the wave reaches shore. If you're sad, listen to sad music, let it all out. Even shed a few tears if you feel better at the end. Instead of constantly trying to beat our moods and feelings, it's good to cope also, it's good to let yourself use grounding techniques and telling yourself "I can do this". There is also no shame in seeking semi-permanent help, or even a hospitalization if it helps you to cope. That's kind of all I got. Stay rad!
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